There is a difference between focusing on being good and getting better.
Focusing on being good can be limiting. It's a subconscious acceptance that you are as good as you are going to get. You tend to set goals that validate your beliefs. They are easy to hit; you're good at it.
Focusing on getter better eliminates that barrier. You're saying to yourself, "what can I improve on?" Here, you set goals that you have to work for; and make changes to attain.
Here are a few examples of that difference:
To lose 5 lbs, you can try to eat less [being good] or you can start working out more — 30 minutes 3X per week [getting better].
To get a promotion, you can do what you do best more often or faster [being good] or you can proactively seek what other — well regarded — employees do well and focus your time there [getting better].
To strengthen a relationship, same thing — do more of the minimum [being good] or focus on the things you don't typically do [getting better].
We are not limited by anything but ourselves. Think about what you can improve on and set your goals in that direction.
Know your limits, but never accept them.
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